Speech

Why Do People Tell Lies?

            Pathological lying isn’t a clinical diagnosis, though it can sometimes be a symptom of other issues, such as a personality disorder or a manic episode. But some people get so accustomed to lying that they do so even when there’s no clear purpose, and when their lies are easily disproven, leaving everyone watching their leads act the point of their deceptions.

Pathological or Compulsive Liars - people who tell lies over and over.

4 Reasons why do People Lie:

1.      TELLING THE TRUTH FEELS LIKE GIVING UP CONTROL

-          Often, people tell lies because they are trying to control a situation and exert influence toward getting the decisions or reactions they want.

2.      THEY DON’T WANT TO DISAPPOINT YOU

-          It might not feel like it to you but people who tell lie after are often worried about losing the respect of those who are around them. They want you to like them, be impressed, and value them. And they’re worried that the truth might lead you to reject them or shame them.

3.      LIES SNOWBALL

-          We tell a little bitty lie sometimes. But then to cover that lie, we have to tell another one, then to cover that lie; we have to tell another and another - each gets bigger and bigger. If a chronic liar admits to any single lie, they feel like they’re admitting to being liar and then you’ll have the reason to distrust them.

4.      THEY WANT IT TO BE TRUE

-          Finally, the liars want their lie to be true so badly that their desire and need again overwhelm their instinct to tell the truth. “Be the change you want to see in the world”. But sometimes, liars hope that they can make something come true by saying it over and over, and by receiving it as hard as they can.